We’ve personally tested and researched dozens of nontoxic self-tanner lotions and self-tanning products — these are our editor’s top picks for safe, clean, and streak-free options at a range of price points.

We crave the feeling of the hot sun on our skin and the afterglow of a good tan, although our idea of tan and what actually happens (i.e., skin turns red, burns, peels, then freckles back to normal) are two different things. This is where self-tanner comes in. Get the glow without the burn, UV damage, and subsequent wrinkles. But what you use to get your glow is super important. 

Why use nontoxic self-tanner?

A study published in the American Journal of Public Health found that skin absorbs an average of 64% of contaminants. Typical self-tanners contain toxic ingredients, including mineral oil (a petroleum-based product that blocks pores and can be carcinogenic); sodium hydroxymethylglycinate which may break down into formaldehyde; isopropyl myristate which may bind to skin as nitrate (a carcinogen); amyl acetate which is sometimes used as a paint and lacquer solvent (gross); octyl stearate, an irritant that blocks pores; and other artificial fragrances and dyes made of petrochemicals. 

Since none of us wants our largest organ covered in potentially cancer-causing chemicals, not to mention the nasty smell of DHA, we’ve rounded up the best nontoxic tanning lotions to keep your summer glow without the toxic load.

Our criteria:

Our editors have tested, researched, and scoured thousands of customer reviews to determine the very best natural skincare brands. These brands are organic, chemical-free, and luxurious, and they come at a variety of prices. We update this list regularly with emerging favorites that meet the criteria below.

• NATURAL/ORGANIC | Each of these self-tanners is made with clean, natural, and organic ingredients that are safe and nourishing for your skin.
• EFFICACY | We’ve tested and researched the best self-tanners to ensure their formulas are effective and will give you the glow you desire (without the streaks!).
• AFFORDABILITY | Natural beauty can be expensive! We’ve included self-tanner brands that are easy on the wallet, so we can all benefit from the products.

Don’t forget the sunscreen! Just because you have a tan doesn’t mean you can forgo lathering up. Here are our favorite nontoxic and mineral sunscreens (and face sunscreens, too).

1. Lux Unfiltered

American made

Cruelty free

Gluten free

Vegan

Woman owned

Best For | Hydrating self-tanners
Ingredients | Sunflower extract, jojoba seed extract, papaya extract, cocoa seed extract, hyaluronic acid
Shade Range | Classic, deep
Price | $38 for 6.8 fl oz of the Original Hydrating Self-Tanning Cream

Founded by digital creator Sivan Ayla in 2019, Lux Unfiltered‘s self-tan collection focuses on enhancing your natural look. The brand’s iconic N°32 Gradual Self-Tanning Cream launched their range of sunless tanning, luxury body care, and colored cosmetics designed to look natural on the skin and aesthetic on the shelf. All products are developed, tested, and made in California using non-toxic, vegan, and cruelty-free ingredients. The N°32 cream is enriched with shea butter, cocoa butter, squalane, and avocado oil, providing a natural-looking glow without the risks of sun exposure. For a customizable tan, try the N°12 drops (an Allure 2022 winner!), featuring hyaluronic acid and coconut water, which can be integrated into any skincare routine for a bronzed face. Easy to apply and free from unpleasant smells or sticky residue, Lux Unfiltered products prioritize safety and natural beauty.

Customer Review | “This stuff is the best. Smells great and applies nicely. Will be my go-to all year long.” – E.B. (Read all reviews.)

2. Coco & Eve

Cruelty free

Eco friendly packaging

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Gluten free

Recycled materials

Vegan

Woman owned

Best For | Anti-aging self-tanner
Ingredients | 100% natural DHA, lotus extract, raw virgin coconut oil, fruit extracts 
Shade Range | Medium, dark, ultra dark
Price | $38 for 6.7 fl oz of the Sunny Honey Bali Bronzing Foam

Coco & Eve has won 21 beauty awards for their 100% clean, cruelty-free tanning products. Their ingredients are silicone-free, toxin-free, paraben-free, and gluten-free. Loved by Cosmopolitan, Elle, Glamour, and more, the Sunny Honey Bali Bronzing Foam is created using their patented lotus extract formula to hydrate and firm skin. For the face, they have two options: Bronzing Face Drops or the Antioxidant Face Tanning Micromist, which includes the brand’s promise of a natural-looking tan in two hours that can last four days. The accessories line is impressive: an exfoliating mitt, soft velvet tanning mitt, back tan applicator, face kabuki brush, and a body kabuki brush. All products are free from sulfates, parabens, petroleum, phthalates, mineral oils, palm oil, and other common nasties. You can find a full list of what they’ve excluded — and included — on each product page. All products are 100% recyclable, and 100% of the cardboard and paper products are FSC-certified.

Customer Review | “This is such a reliable glowy tan. Exactly what I wanted for my bridal shower (see pictures!). I use the medium color and it’s perfect. Sometimes if I have drier patches of skin it looks blotchy upon application, but it always comes out super even, so don’t be alarmed at first! When you rinse off, there’s usually an initial layer of “brown” tint that rinses off, then almost a “green” tint when you use soap. So make sure to use soap as well if you’ll be wearing light colored clothes! This is so worth it!” – Haley (Read all reviews.)

3. IONIQ Skin Care

Cruelty free

Natural materials

Subscriptions available

Vegan

Best For | Quick application
Ingredients | DHA, aloe vera, glycerin, vitamin E
Shade Range | Light, medium, dark
Price | $299 for IONIQ sprayer and tan system

IONIQ Skin Care brings the spray tan experience straight to your home, mess-free. This revolutionary product, crafted in Switzerland, uses a patented magnetic sprayer technology from Germany that attracts the product to your skin to help you spray every inch of your body with ease (even your back!) in just under a couple of minutes. You’ll be left with an even and streak-free tan, no rubbing needed. IONIQ is also dermatologist-tested and formulated to nourish the skin without parabens, sulphates, or silicones. If you love looking tan year-round but hate the upkeep, this product is worth the investment.

Customer Review | “Amazing product! I’ve tried every self tanner out there and this one is by far the best and easiest. You have a customer for life! Even application (still figuring the hands out – haha), doesn’t get in clothes or anywhere except the skin. Lasts super long and is extremely natural. Excellent!” – Sarah W. (Read all reviews.)

4. Beauty by Earth

American made

Budget friendly

Cruelty free

Gluten free

USDA organic

Vegan

Woman owned

Best For | Self-tanner bundles
Ingredients | Sugar beet DHA, coconut oil, witch hazel, shea butter, green tea & fruit extracts
Shade Range | Fair to medium, medium to dark
Price | $36 for 7.5 fl oz of the Self Tanner Body Lotion

Beauty by Earth was developed by two friends who were frustrated with the skincare industry’s disregard for health, particularly regarding sunscreens that contained harmful toxins. Determined to offer safer alternatives, they founded one of the fastest-growing natural skincare companies in the U.S., Beauty by Earth, which focuses on effective, clean ingredients. Their popular self-tanner, infused with coconut oil, shea butter, cranberries, and sugar-beet-derived DHA, not only provides a natural-looking tan but also deeply hydrates and rejuvenates the skin. Committed to transparency and safety, Beauty by Earth products are rated by the Environmental Working Group’s Skin Deep Database®, ensuring you’ll feel confident and nurtured with every use.

Customer Review | “At first application I was a little disappointed with the amount of color. When I realized it was buildable… GAME CHANGER! I like the ease of the product… its very nourishing and my results are not only beautiful but noticeable to friends and coworkers. Love this stuff!!” – Dorothy (Read all reviews.)

5. Typology

B corp

BIPOC Owned

Eco friendly packaging

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Gives back

Recycled materials

Vegan

Best For | Self-tanning complexion serum 
Ingredients | Jasmine native cells, buriti oil, carrot macerated oil, jojoba oil, sunflower oil, mandarin oil
Shade Range | Natural orange glow for all skin types
Price | $70 for 1 fl oz of the Tan Complexion Serum

Typology’s products have an artisan-style beauty, but they are far from style over substance. Made of six plant extracts in three synergistic categories of active ingredients (plant cells, plant oils, and essential oils), this serum revives the radiance of your skin, giving you an instant, subtle summer tan. Buriti oil is rich in beta-carotene, an orange-colored plant pigment found in carrots that is chock-full of antioxidants. Used in their proprietary blend, just a few drops of the serum as the final step in your skincare routine results in a sun-kissed glow. It’s suitable for all skin types (although if you tend towards oily skin, they recommend only applying the serum at night). All ingredients are certified organic, 100% naturally derived, vegan, and packaged in a recyclable glass bottle with a glass pipette. Oh, and it really is made in France.

Side note: If you still want a self-tanner, they offer the wildly popular Self-Tanning Serum made with 100% plant-derived DHA and carob pulp extract. It provides a progressive customized tan from six hours after application that last three to five days. 

Customer Review | “I’ve added it to my evening routine (as recommended for oily skin). It’s not a self-tanner, so the result is really light. You really get a healthy glow.” – Madly V. (Read all reviews.)

6. Saltyface

1% for the planet

Cruelty free

Eco friendly packaging

Made in Canada

Natural materials

Vegan

Woman owned

Best For | Gradual face tan
Ingredients | DHA from organic sugar beets, hyaluronic acid, aloe vera leaf, jojoba oil, raspberry seed oil, chamomile extract
Shade Range | Light/medium, medium/dark
Price | $42 for 1 fl oz of the Tanning Water

If you thought self-tanning couldn’t get any cleaner – think again. Vancouver-based brand Saltyface is all about developing intentional tanning products that include clean, skin-loving ingredients that complement your existing routine. Their bestselling facial Tanning Water is perfect if you’re into a low-maintenance tanning routine that is acne-safe, hydrates your skin, and even supports skin elasticity. If a mist isn’t your thing, the Tanning Moisturizer offers similar features, allowing you to gently develop a tan while also replenishing your skin’s surface. Beyond being vegan and cruelty-free, Saltyface adheres to the Credo Clean Standard, EWG Skin Deep, and is goop-approved.

Customer Review | “Tanning water has given me such a natural looking tan even though I have a skin condition (vitilago) it works great for me.” – Bauman M. (Read all reviews.)

7. True Botanicals

1% for the planet

Biodegradable

Cruelty free

Eco friendly packaging

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Made safe

Subscriptions available

Vegan

Woman owned

Best For | Pregnancy-safe bronzing self-tanner
Ingredients | Carotenoid-rich oils, calendula oil, apricot kernel oil
Shade Range | Natural bronzer for all skin types
Price | $120 for 1 fl oz of the Bronze Well Regenerative Glow Drops

Give your skin an instant golden-hour glow with True Botanicals‘ Bronze Well Regenerative Glow Drops, a luxurious treatment oil designed to nourish, hydrate, and illuminate all skin types and tones. Packed with potent antioxidants, carotenoid-rich oils, pro-vitamin A apricot kernel oil, and soothing calendula, these drops fight fine lines, dryness, and dullness while protecting your skin barrier from free radical damage. Use it as the final step in your routine for a luminous finish or mix a few drops into your moisturizer or foundation for a subtle, sun-kissed radiance.

Customer Review | “These are great, they really give you a perfect subtle tan. I hate the way self tanners smell and this bronzer oil is the best alternative! I love it” – Lauren L. (Read all reviews.)

8. Coola

Cruelty free

Eco friendly packaging

Gluten free

Recycled materials

Soy free

Vegan

Best For | Certified organic self-tanners
Ingredients | Argan oil, hyaluronic acid, plant stem cell cultures, aloe vera, fruit & flower extracts
Shade Range | Gradual tan formula
Price | $54 for 1.7 fl oz of the Sunless Tan Anti-Aging Face Serum

COOLA‘s glow-inducing serum gradually builds a tan over several days while reducing visible signs of aging. Formulated with argan oil and hyaluronic acid to nourish the skin and plant stem cell cultures to minimize premature aging, this serum is non-comedogenic and suitable for sensitive skin. Adhering to the strict California Organic Products Act (COPA) standards, COOLA ensures that at least 70% of every formula consists of certified organic ingredients, supplemented by sustainable, lab-derived elements. Their 100% naturally derived fragrances are transparently listed, and every product undergoes Human Repeated Insult Patch Testing (HRIPT) to ensure safety. Additionally, all COOLA products are soy-free, nut-free, and gluten-free.

Customer Review | “LOVE COOLA’s Organic Sunless Tan Anti-Aging Face Serum. It is perfectly effective at giving me a natural looking tan, super easy to apply and even helps my face look smoother and younger! Excellent product!” – Patrick W. (Read all reviews.)

9. Suntegrity

Cruelty free

Gluten free

Recycled materials

Soy free

Subscriptions available

Vegan

Best For | Natural sugar beet DHA self-tanner
Ingredients | USDA Certified Biobased product using aloe vera, shea butter, sweet almond oil, coconut oil, fruit oils & extracts, coffee extract 
Shade Range | Buildable formula
Price | $40 for 5 oz of the Suntegrity Moisturizing Self Tanner 

Suntegrity came about when founder Tricia lost her mother to melanoma skin cancer and realized she needed to wear sunscreen every single day. The only problem was that most sunscreens use filters like Oxybenzone or Octinoxate, both linked to potential endocrine disruption. Tricia wanted to make a skin care line that not only protected but also nourished skin. She did just that with the creation of her face and body SPF line and her moisturizing self-tanning line. Suntegrity’s Moisturizing Self Tanner is hydrating and nourishing, leaving you feeling protected and glowy from the inside out. Suntegrity is vegan, cruelty-free, and their SPFs are reef-friendly. Choose from a body blender mitt made of 100% latex-free foam, a Kabuki body brush, or a Self-Tanning Mitt for flawless application and coverage.

Customer Review | “This Is THE BEST Self Tanner! Smells Great, Perfect Coloring When On, And Doesn’t Have Gross Chemicals. Thank You So Much For Making This Item – It’s My Summer Must Have!” – Desiree (Read all reviews.)

Featured image is from True Botanicals

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We love using natural products, especially in the bedroom. These are our top picks for safe sex toys that are cute, discreet, and have other perks, too.

Even a decade ago, owning a pleasure device of any kind felt slightly shameful. It was a secret to be hidden away in our most private drawers, furtively used on lonely nights. This feeling was, in part, due to how sex toys were manufactured to be blatantly realistic and obnoxiously large. Let’s just say, before the ’90s, vibrators were not discreet — or cute.

As we continue to shift our cultural narratives surrounding sexuality, we’re seeing a ripple effect throughout the industries catering to our sexual desires. The sex toy industry has been expanding its approach to pleasure for people with vulvas, well beyond the classic dildo or vibrator model (though these are classic for a reason!). There have also been notable innovations for transgender and non-binary pleasure as well.

Why shop sex toys for women, especially those made by women?

We love the newer emphasis on wellness-based, versatile models by women designers who are modernizing the industry. They’re helping us to explore our sexuality and desires while also caring for our bodies. No room for shame in this new game, where education reigns, and customization is endless. After all, there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to sexual pleasure. Below are some of the best sex toys for women, started mainly by women founders who are leading the industry into a new frontier of empowerment and liberation.

Our criteria:

Our editors have personally used and reviewed nontoxic and sustainable products for a decade. Yes, that includes lube and even toys. These are our top picks for natural lubes that are made of organic materials, safe to use, and have other benefits too. We regularly update this list with new finds that meet the criteria below.

• NATURAL & ORGANIC | These toys are made with all-natural and skin-safe materials.
• DISCREETNESS | Each of these brands creates toys that are fun, cute, and discreet enough that you don’t have to feel embarrassed keeping them in (or on!) your nightstand.
• VERSATILE | Whether you’re looking for a solo vibrator or a toy to use with a partner, these brands are versatile and can be used in many ways!

If you’re looking for other sexual wellness products, check out our guide to vegan condoms and our favorite nontoxic lube brands!

Table of contents

• Best Overall: Smile Makers ($130)
• Most Affordable: Maude ($52)
• Most Discreet: Maude ($52)
• Most Ergonomic: Smile Makers ($130)
• Most Sustainable: The Natural Love Company (£100)
• Best For Menopause: Tabu ($95)
• Best For Couples: Unbound ($71)
• Most Quiet: LELO ($349)
• Most Personalized: Dame ($119)
• Best Warming Vibrator: Bloomi ($74)
• Best Low Frequency: Je Joue ($99)

1. Smile Makers

Best For | Ergonomic sex toys
Product Range | Vibrators, lubricants, wipes, oils, candles, condoms, sex education guides
Price For Bestselling Vibrator | $130

Smile Makers is on a mission to bring sex (and vulvas!) out into the open. For nearly a decade, the team has tirelessly worked to create sensual products for vulva owners, thinking through female anatomy, ergonomic design, and the best in quality materials. (Along the way, Smile Makers also hosts pleasure-positive sex workshops and sex education programs — brava!) We love the team’s quiz to help you find your next sex toy, its playful language and product names, and largely affordable pricing.

Customer Review | “It’s wonderful! Very easy to clean and store. Has a great battery life. Would definitely recommend” – Victoria S. (Read all reviews.)

2. LELO

Best For | Quiet sex toys
Product Range | Sex toys for women, men & couples, LGBTQ+ sex toys, lubricants, accessories, condoms
Price For Bestselling Vibrator | $349

Use the code TRADE20 for an extra 20% off on all Lelo products

LELO prides itself on crafting luxurious sex toys designed to make pleasure a meaningful part of self-care. No matter your gender, orientation, race, or age, there’s a toy created to suit your needs. The brand is renowned for its design, innovation, and technology, with every product meeting the ISO 3533 international standard, ensuring safety for intimate use. Over the years, LELO has earned numerous accolades, including Red Dot Awards for “Product Design” and “Sex Toy of the Year.” While many of LELO’s products are considered an investment, they come with features that offer true value: Certified body-safe construction, long-lasting rechargeable batteries, app integration, safety assurances, and the peace of mind of a one-year warranty plus a ten-year quality guarantee. In other words: These toys are built to last, designed to delight, and meant to make pleasure part of your everyday wellbeing.

Our Editor’s Review | “LELO’s SONA™ 3 was my first ever suction toy, and it completely won me over. From the first touch, it’s clear this isn’t just a toy; it’s a carefully designed experience. The whisper-quiet sonic wave technology and soft, velvety silicone make every use feel indulgent, serving as a reminder that sex is self-care. Using it feels luxurious, intentional, and somehow essential — the kind of bedside upgrade you didn’t know you needed but now can’t imagine living without.” – Stephanie Fallon, Contributing Editor [Read the full review.]

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3. Dame

Best For | Personalized sex toys
Product Range | Personal & couples vibrators, lubricants, wipes, supplements, candles, cleaners, STI-testing kits, games
Price For Bestselling Vibrator | $119

This fun sex toy brand was started by two female founders: One is a credentialed sexologist and the other is an established engineer. Alongside lubes and serums, Dame’s sex toys are sleek, sexy, and even a bit futuristic. The designs are truly a glimpse at how sex toys can be revolutionized, and they challenge our ideas on what these products should look like — take the bestselling Aer suction toy, for example. The founders continue to develop new and innovative products for all — while also closing the pleasure gap. Not sure where to start? Take the brand’s quiz to find the right toy for you!

Customer Review | “Best toy out here! I literally use nothing else and am very loyal to this brand. This company makes their products so well we even purchased the pillow! Very satisfied with everything and not to mention the customer service is outstanding!” – SK (Read all reviews.)

4. Je Joue

Best For | Low-frequency
Product Range | Personal/couples vibrators & toys, lingerie, lube, cleansers, candles, games
Price For Bestselling Vibrator | $99

With an emphasis on being sex-positive, Je Joue sells toys (think beads, rings, and handcuffs) as well as vibrators that are “sophisticated and elegantly naughty.” The designers worked with gynecologists and midwives to help make sure its vibrators are beautiful and effective. The unique motors operate at an ultra-low frequency allowing the vibrations to travel more deeply through the body and access more internal pleasure points. So, simply put, they do the job right!

Customer Review | “Really good vibrator. Quality is good and it is very discreet. Easy to use and travel with!” – Allison B. (Read all reviews.)

5. Maude

Best For | Discreet sex toys
Product Range | Vibrators, lubricants, condoms, supplements, body care products, candles
Price For Bestselling Vibrator | $52

We appreciate the minimalist approach to this inclusive, affordable, and beautifully designed bedroom essentials brand, Maude. Its goal is to help modernize the pleasure industry by selling body-safe products that not only look cute on your nightstand but are also functional — like the “burn” candle that doubles as a massage oil or the vibrator that looks like a trendy art piece. Plus, you can grab a travel kit or bundle for double the pleasure and double the fun.

Customer Review | “I didn’t expect to love this as much as I do. I bought this to have as a back up option and to take traveling because of its nice small size. I was always a believer that the suction vibrators worked the fastest but this proved me wrong… the first time I used it I was honestly a bit shocked! Feel incredible, looks sleek and modern, holds a long charge, and is quiet and easy to travel with. This is also a great vibrator for use during sex as it’s slim and doesn’t get in the way. 10/10!” – Lindsey (Read all reviews.)

6. Bloomi

Best For | Warming vibrator
Product Range | Vibrators, lubricants, massage oils
Price For Bestselling Vibrator | $74

Bloomi’s clean, plant-based sexual wellness products are thoughtfully designed with input from top sexual wellness experts, so you can experience pleasure without worrying about toxic ingredients affecting your most intimate areas. The brand formulates its products to be free of common allergens and irritants, including glycerin, gluten, phthalates, parabens, sulfates, fragrances, and more (see the full “no” list here), helping reduce potential disruptions to hormonal balance and reproductive health. Their sex toy collection is small but mighty, with products like their new Glow Warming Massager, which is made with soft, medical-grade silicone and gently enhances arousal through warming sensations that boost circulation. Even better, each order comes in discreet packaging made from eco-friendly shipping materials!

7. The Pelvic People

Best For | Pain & sensitivity management 
Product Range | Intimacy support products, lubricants, cleansers
Price For Bestselling Vibrator | $76

This fascinating toy is a revolutionary device that offers relief to those who find penetrative sex uncomfortable. The Pelvic People was founded by a woman who experienced painful sex herself and went on a journey to alleviate the discomfort. During her research, she found that one in every 10 women experiences pain during sex. This inspired her to create the Ohnut ring, which customizes penetration depth. The product is BPA-, phthalate-, and latex-free, and made from FDA-approved body-safe material. The Pelvic People also offers a lube, sensory brush, and a “getting-to-know-you” mirror for even more intimate moments.

Customer Review | “I love recommending this to my clients who experience penetrative pain. The depth-limiting rings are brilliant not only for modifying penetration, but also for alleviating the anxiety and fear that can be present when pain is involved.” – Laura L. (Read all reviews.)

8. Tabu

Best For | Menopause
Product Range | Vibrators, lubricants, pillows, body & skincare products 
Price For Bestselling Vibrator | $95

Tabu is not buying the idea that sexual health and pleasure is only for the young. Dedicated to sexual education and wellness at any age, their toys, lubes, and tools are made by a dedicated panel of medical experts, pelvic floor therapists, and gynecologists. Long term vaginal health benefits from attention and care and their thoughtfully designed vulva stimulator and heating wand offer gentle vibrations that stimulate and care for the soft tissues of the vulva and vagina through reproductive years and beyond.

Customer Review | “I’ve never felt better about my body. This has been an investment in my health.” – Bri (Read all reviews.)

9. Unbound

Best For | Couples
Product Range | Personal/couples vibrators & sex toys, lubricants, condoms, 
Price For Bestselling Vibrator | $71

This brand, Unbound, is fully women-led and run with an emphasis on creating a feminist space to explore and experience women’s sexuality. The products are safe, playful, and inclusive, and we love that you can filter by categories like “beginner,” “couple,” or “multispeed.” They also have a number of sensation toys and nipple or clit clamps if you want to explore pain safely. Our favorite unique design is the “Puff,” which uses a rhythmic sucking sensation and intensity for clitoral pleasure. The Puff is rechargeable, waterproof, and sent in discreet packaging. It’s no surprise that Unbound sex toys have thousands of five-star reviews.

Customer Review | “This is my new favorite vibe from unbound babes! Even the lowest setting is great. Love the flexibility of it. It makes it easy to hold.” – Nekera F. (Read all reviews.)

10. The Natural Love Company

Best For | Sustainability
Product Range | Vibrators, dildos, suction toys, couples toys, lubricant
Price For Bestselling Vibrator | £100

Family-run brand The Natural Love Company operates out of England and has made it its mission to make intimacy wellness products that are not only aesthetically beautiful but are also better for our planet. From sex toys made from a recycled ocean plastic internal core, to planting a tree for every purchase and giving back via 1% for the planet, to even recycling your old toys for free, the company is thoughtful in how they produce and give back to the earth. We love that every toy comes with a 365-day satisfaction promise, for the ultimate peace of mind. Plus, everything is vegan, cruelty-free, and comes in discreet plastic-free packaging, too!

Customer Review | “Love the fact it’s a two in one toy. Really easy to use and charge. Perfect size as well.” – Gemma T. (Read all reviews.)

Featured image from Lelo

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I hopped in the Uber when it arrived and began to chat happily with my driver. I asked him some basic get-to-know-you questions: Where are you from? Oh, here? Do you like it here? What do you do for work? What are your hobbies? He asked me similar questions in return. We were having an easy conversation. I shared that I was traveling from out of town and wanting to explore the area a bit. I told him I loved flea markets, art, and local cafes. Did he have any recommendations? 

“He paused, ‘Well, I know this probably sounds weird, but I was planning to go to this really cool flea market after I complete your ride… Would you want to join me?'”

He paused, “Well, I know this probably sounds weird, but I was planning to go to this really cool flea market after I complete your ride. I thought I might as well pop in and see if they have any new records while I’m nearby. Would you want to join me?” 

I paused. 

He could murder me or I could have a fun experience with a complete stranger. I laughed to myself. 

I silently leaned into the feeling I had received from this man over the last 15 minutes. He was kind. He seemed introspective and open. I had told him I was married. He did not seem put off or otherwise. 

“What’s the name of the flea market?” I asked. 

He told me the name and I Googled it. It was, in fact, very close to the hotel. 

“Let’s do it,” I said. “And not that I don’t trust you, but please keep the Uber ride on and I’ll pay you for a new drop-off location.” 

He agreed, wanting me to feel safe. 

I shared my location with my husband and my friends, and I told them my plan. 

We arrived at the flea market. He locked my luggage in the trunk of his car and we proceeded to wander the many halls of the market together. We decided to stick together, to go through each stall alongside each other and look at weird objects, clothes, and records while chatting. I picked out a vintage fringe cowgirl shirt and a turquoise and silver lighter cover. He filed through hundreds of records telling me about his passion for jazz and explaining each of the records he chose. He found more gems than he normally did. He said I was his good luck charm. 

“We decided to stick together, to go through each stall alongside each other.”

He told me about his mother, native to Mexico, who had raised him across the border (El Paso is a border city — you can literally see the chainlink, spikey fence that divides Mexico from the United States while driving on the highway). His father was American. He spent his childhood going back and forth across the border. He told me about his passion for photography and showed me some of his work. I told him about my mother, an artist whom I admired deeply. We shared about our childhoods and the hobbies we were passionate about, mainly art, music, and design. We had this in common. 

There was something about knowing we would never see each other again and that we weren’t a part of each other’s worlds in any way that created an easy candidness between us. We asked each other deep questions and had nothing to hide. 

Eventually, my friends arrived in town, picked me up from the flea market, and I departed from my new friend with a hug, a photo together, and a follow on Instagram. 

The magic of saying yes to strangers

This experience in my late-twenties began a snowball effect of saying yes to strangers. In a world that is saturated with bad news and quietly teaches us that people are dangerous, I have chosen to live in opposition to this position — to live from the mindset that most people are mostly good. I have never been a stranger to serendipity, but this quiet hope has led me to embrace it all the more.

The Oxford dictionary defines serendipity as “the occurrence and development of events by chance in a happy or beneficial way.” I’ve found that when you combine serendipity with saying yes to strangers, you tap into the magic of living. You know, that feeling of childlike awe. 

“I’ve found that when you combine serendipity with saying yes to strangers, you tap into the magic of living.”

Magic is easy to find as a child; it is everywhere because the world is unknown to us. Everything is new. An ant travelling through a crack in the concrete could entertain us for hours. But the feeling is harder to come by as an adult. Jedidiah Jenkins documents this concept in his book To Shake the Sleeping Self. At the age of 30, Jenkins quits his nine-to-five job and spends 16 months biking from Oregon to Patagonia. This experience wakes him from his routine and restores his awe. 

I don’t think our pursuit of magic must be so dramatic. This awe, this magic, lives in the unexpected, and aren’t strangers unexpected in a multitude of ways? Pasts, presents, and futures all live within a single person. What a mystery to discover. 

“Magic is easy to find as a child; it is everywhere because the world is unknown to us.”

You pass strangers every day. There is one ringing in your groceries at the checkout counter, sitting next to you on a plane, passing you by on a walk in your neighborhood.  

Embracing a stranger through a conversation, a quick nod, or an intentional experience connects us to the spontaneity and connection of life. I’ve found that saying yes to strangers, in big and small ways alike, expands my worldview, brings me joy, fosters connection to humanity and my community, and makes life fun (I love gathering stories and sharing them!). 

When to say yes 

Saying yes to strangers does not mean saying yes to every stranger. It doesn’t mean I am always attentive to who is around me. It doesn’t mean I put myself in physical danger. It doesn’t mean I give away energy I do not have. It doesn’t mean I bypass my needs or sense of self. 

“Saying yes to strangers does not mean saying yes to every stranger.”

It is a delicate balance of knowing my energy levels (reading if I have capacity to say yes), understanding my safety and surroundings (am I physically safe?), and trusting my gut (listening to my inner guide). 

When all three of these aspects align, I say yes. When all three of these aspects align for both me and a stranger, that’s where the magic happens. 

How to make space for serendipity 

Serendipity doesn’t always come naturally. Routines and schedules often stifle the space that serendipity needs to thrive. I believe making space for serendipity requires a loosening of control and an attentive curiosity of the world around us. Just like learning to trust your gut, serendipity must be cultivated over time. 

Here are some simple ways to make space for serendipity in your life:  

Follow your interests.  

The interests and hobbies you hold dear are likely surrounded by like-minded people. 

Facebook Marketplace is my favorite place to find items for my home. I find myself at strangers’ homes quite often, picking up furniture and art. Ninety-nine percent of the time, I simply pick up my purchase and leave, but last winter, one pickup felt different. A woman in her 60s invited me into her home to see the rest of the furniture she was selling. She told me about her degree in textiles and how she loved refurbishing old furniture and renovating houses. I expressed lots of interest in these things and asked her questions. 

“Ninety-nine percent of the time, I simply pick up my purchase and leave, but last winter, one pickup felt different. “

She said, “I never run into young people who love these things too! Wanna hang out?” 

I did want to hang out! A few weeks later, we went to lunch together and then on a shopping spree, wandering our favorite thrift stores in town. She taught me all about textiles and how to score high-quality pillows and fabrics from the overflowing shelves.

Where do your interests lead you naturally? Let them guide you to a like-minded stranger.

Share about your interests. 

Once you follow your interests, talk about them with strangers! Express your interests wholeheartedly. Not everyone will pick up what you’re putting down. There have been countless scenarios where I’ve blabbered away about a topic I’m passionate about, only to find that the stranger doesn’t get it or doesn’t care. 

“Express your interests wholeheartedly.”

Eventually, a moment will come when it clicks for both you and the stranger. 

On a flight home, I sat in the middle seat reading a novel and writing fervently in my notebook. About 30 minutes to touchdown, I took my headphones out, and the girl next to me asked what I was reading. I showed her and then tested the water, telling her about my passion for writing and stories. A spark ignited between us, and we talked about these things for the rest of the flight. We exchanged numbers and a week later had coffee, then explored a bookstore together. 

Ask questions. 

This may seem like a no-brainer, but the key to getting to the point of saying yes to a stranger requires asking questions. Every scenario I’ve shared so far involved getting to know the stranger before me. By asking questions and getting to know them, I was also gauging whether saying yes to them felt right. Follow your curiosity and ask questions even if it feels awkward at first.

Compliment a stranger. 

This is so simple, but so powerful. You never know where a compliment will lead (and even if it doesn’t lead anywhere, you made someone’s day a little brighter).

I was at a thrift store perusing the dishware section when I heard a voice next to me say, “I love your shoes.” Instead of a simple thank you, I turned to her and said, “Thank you! I love these shoes, I wear them when I’m working events because they’re comfy for a long day on my feet.” 

“But the two of us strangers leaned in — we bubbled about our love for these specific gym shoes (who knew one could be so passionate about a pair of tennies?).”

This could have been received with a simple nod, and each of us going our separate ways. But the two of us strangers leaned in — we bubbled about our love for these specific gym shoes (who knew one could be so passionate about a pair of tennies?) and eventually found out we had careers that put us in overlapping environments. We exchanged numbers.

A few weeks later, she invited me over to her house for coffee, a hike, and to listen to some new music she was making. 

Put down your phone. 

Making space for natural interactions is pivotal to interacting with strangers. Phone use acts as a barrier to social interactions. We’ve all used a quick phone check to fill awkward silences or simply pass the time in a waiting room, on public transit, or standing in line. What if we chose to simply observe our surroundings in those moments?

“Phone use acts as a barrier to social interactions.”

This liminal space leaves room for interactions with strangers. With my phone away, I’ve noticed how much more frequently a stranger will spark a conversation with me.  ✨

Above all, make space where you can. Saying yes to strangers doesn’t have to lead to long dates or hangs. A simple encounter for a few minutes may be all you have time for, but can be the start of a more serendipitous life.

Stevie Rozean is a writer and wedding planner based in Joshua Tree, California. She has a Bachelor of Science in Journalism and writes about her pursuit of a creative life on her Substack, Mixed Multitudes. In her free time you can find her sketching with her friends at art club, curating her home through flea market finds, and exploring the desert.

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We love using natural products, especially in the bedroom. These are our top picks for nontoxic lubes that are organic, safe, and have other perks too.

Lubricant, when made well and with healthy and natural ingredients, is a wonderful aid for enhancing pleasure. It’s great for foreplay and sensual massages or touch, especially in our erogenous zones, as well as other activities. Depending on the ingredients, lube can increase arousal, intensify pleasure, and even reduce pain or inflammation.

Why consider natural lube? 

Opting for natural lube not only is better for your body, but can also be better for your health and the environment. It’s crucial for lube to work with the natural pH level‘s of our bodies, in order to avoid imbalances and infections. (Typically, a lube should be as close to a level of 4.5 as possible, for optimal balance.) Alongside the proper pH, natural lubricants are more beneficial and are typically free from harsh chemicals, synthetic fragrances, and artificial preservatives, reducing the risk of irritation and allergic reactions. They often contain soothing and moisturizing ingredients like aloe vera and coconut oil, which help promote overall vaginal health. Additionally, natural lubes are usually non-toxic and avoid potentially harmful substances like parabens and petrochemicals.

From an environmental perspective, natural lubes often use sustainably sourced, biodegradable ingredients and eco-friendly packaging, reducing their ecological footprint. Many brands also emphasize ethical practices, such as cruelty-free testing. By choosing natural lubricants, you can ensure a safer, more enjoyable experience while supporting sustainability and ethical production practices.

Our criteria:

Our editors have personally used and reviewed nontoxic and sustainable products for a decade. Yes, that includes lube and even toys. These are our top picks for natural lubes that are made of organic materials, safe to use, and have other benefits too. We regularly update this list with new finds that meet the below criteria.

• NATURAL & ORGANIC | Made with all-natural, skin-safe, and organic ingredients, these lubes are non-irritating and offer moisturizing properties for your skin and intimate regions.
• HEALTHY & SAFE | Each of these lube brands are free from harmful additives and unnecessary irritants, and are healthy and safe for use on our bodies.
• VERSATILE | Whether you’re looking for a lubricant for solo use or with a partner, these lube brands are versatile and can be used for both, as well as for toys too!

There’s no shame in needing or wanting to use lube — or toys, for that matter! Our only recommendation is to use products that are as healthy and eco-friendly as they are potent. In case your libido has been feeling low, we’ve also gathered our favorite all-natural libido-boosting supplements to help enhance your pleasure and satisfaction!

Best Overall |
Most Affordable |
Best For Sensitive Skin |
Best Scent |

1. Coconu

American made

Budget friendly

Cruelty free

Family owned

Gives back

Small business

Subscriptions available

USDA organic

Best For | Sensitive skin
Organic & Natural Ingredients | Organic coconut oil, organic beeswax, organic cocoa butter, organic sunflower oil & organic shea butter
Price | $27–$35; discounted subscriptions available (15% off)

Coconu is a leader in the natural lube field, the first company to create a coconut oil-based lubricant that is USDA-certified organic. Using the highest quality certified organic ingredients, these lubes are designed for internal and external use, with or without toys. They are also 100% edible and cruelty-free! Shipped in discreet packaging, the brand also works in partnership with Ovarian Cancer Research Alliance, donating a portion of its profits toward research.

Customer Review | “I finally found the perfect lube! Coconu Oil Based is what I use every time. Don’t waste your time with other lubes on the market. Coconu has the best texture and consistency and lasts the longest. No mess and no fuss. Love it!” – Anonymous (Read all reviews.)

2. Foria

Gives back

Small business

Subscriptions available

Third party tested

USDA organic

Vegan

Best For | Enhancing pleasure
Organic & Natural Ingredients | Organic MCT coconut oil & broad-spectrum CBD
Price | $20–$36; discounted subscriptions available (10% off)

Elevate sensation and satisfaction with Foria’s natural Sex Oil with CBD. It’s formulated with just two ingredients — organic coconut oil and USDA organic-certified, regeneratively-grown USA hemp — but they sure are effective. If you don’t believe us, check out the reviews that rave about enhanced pleasure, relaxation, and comfort during intimacy! For an alternate option that’s compatible with condoms and most toys, Foria’s organic water-based aloe lube Juicy Pure is made to feel familiar on your skin for a smooth, easeful glide.

Customer Review | “Using this oil for self pleasure has definitely helped me to experience a more natural and better feeling of self satisfaction. Can’t wait to try it with a partner when the time comes.” – Anonymous (Read all reviews.)

3. Maude 

American made

Budget friendly

Cruelty free

Eco friendly packaging

FSC

Recycled materials

Subscriptions available

Vegan

Woman owned

Best For | Safe for condoms
Organic & Natural Ingredients | Organic, aloe-based, glycerin- & paraben-free; aloe juice, mushroom extract, quinoa seed extract, oat kernel extract
Price | $21–$25; discounted subscriptions available (10% off)

We love this lube’s beautiful, discreet bottle design, making it perfect to keep on your nightstand. Maude’s ultra-hydrating Shine lubricant is made in the USA with organic ingredients, including aloe, for natural and pH-balancing hydration.

Customer Review | “A little goes a long way! Bought this 7 months ago and we have only gone through half of the bottle! The consistency is sooo smooth and soft. The formula remains wet for a long time- no need to reapply over and over. Non-scented and cute packaging… what more could you want?! I love all of our Maude products!” – Chloe (Read all reviews.)

4. Playground

Doctor approved

Eco friendly packaging

Gives back

Recycled materials

Third party tested

Vegan

Woman owned

Best For | Water-based lube
Organic & Natural Ingredients | Safe and natural ingredients, superherb adaptogens, vegan & water-based, clean fragrance formulas (fragrance-free options)
Price | $18

Playground’s clean and water-based lubricants are perfect for boosting your pleasure and intimacy. The pH-balanced formulas offer a lasting and silky slip, and the subtle scents are inviting without being overbearing. This lube is made with full-sensory superherb adaptogens too, increasing blood flow and enhancing orgasm. Best of all, Playground has the most fun and — yes — playful packaging! Less stigma, more stimulation for the win.

Customer Review | “Goes on silky, slippery and keeps you wet. Very gentle on the skin with 0 irritation.” – Colleen W. (Read all reviews.)

5. Tabu

American made

Doctor approved

FDA approved

Science backed

Small business

Subscriptions available

Vegan

Woman owned

Best For | Paraben-free lubricant
Organic & Natural Ingredients | Plant-based and vegan ingredients including organic aloe leaf, organic passion flower, and organic peony root; free from parabens, fragrances, hormones, and glycerin; water-based
Price | $37; discounted subscriptions available (10%+ off)

Tabu is a firm believer that pleasure never comes with an expiration date (say it louder for the people in the back!) — which is to say, this California-based brand is destigmatizing sexual wellness for older women. The science-backed and health-first company addresses common concerns like dryness, atrophy, low libido, and more with its personal massager and natural lubricant. We love that the Aureum Lubricant is clean, natural, made in the USA, FDA-cleared, and hypoallergenic (among many other things). Snag a Golden Hour Kit for the whole package.

Customer Review | “Best lubricant! Absolutely no stinging or burning and wonderfully slippery.” – Anonymous (Read all reviews.)

6. Nécessaire

1% for the planet

B corp

Climate neutral

Eco friendly packaging

FDA approved

FSC

Recycled materials

Vegan

Woman owned

Best For | pH-balanced lube
Organic & Natural Ingredients | Aloe leaf juice, hyaluronic acid, lactic acid, allantoin
Price | $28; discounted subscriptions available (15% off)

Nécessaire’s Sex Gel is a water-based personal lubricant designed for intimate skin, featuring a hydrating serum-in-gel formula with hyaluronic acid, lactic acid, and allantoin for enhanced moisture and comfort. This vegan, pH-optimized product is FDA-approved and free from silicones, parabens, phthalates, PEGs, and added fragrances. It serves as both a lubricant and intimate moisturizer, being non-staining, non-greasy, and non-sticky. Nécessaire’s lube is a Medical Class II device and is certified by 1% For The Planet, B Corp, Climate Neutral, Plastic Neutral, FSC, and How2Recycle, with a pH range of 3.5 to 4.5.

Customer Review | “This is the best lube. It is nearly like the body’s natural fluid. Other lubricants can be sticky or greasy or too watery. This one is perfect. We love it for partnered romance or solo fun. No scent, no irritation, provides lasting moisturization.” – Carol (Read all reviews.)

7. Dame

Cruelty free

Doctor approved

Subscriptions available

Vegan

Woman owned

Best For | Long-lasting glide
Organic & Natural Ingredients | Aloe leaf juice, mushroom extract, sodium hyaluronate, quinoa seed extract, hemp seed extract, linseed extract, green tea extract, oat kernel extract
Price | $19; discounted subscriptions available (25% off)

Aloe Lube by Dame is a doctor-approved, pH-balanced, and toy-safe personal lubricant formulated with organic plant extracts for a silky, long-lasting glide. Its key ingredients include aloe leaf juice for its slippery glide, plus mushroom extract, sodium hyaluronate, quinoa seed extract, and green tea extract to name a few. These natural components provide moisture, promote blood flow, reduce inflammation, and preserve the product. Aloe Lube easily washes away with warm water, and has a pH of 4 matching the ideal pH for both penile and vaginal regions! With every second order of this lube, you’ll receive a free textured silicone grip, convenient for single-hand use.

Customer Review | “This product seems very similar to one’s own natural lubrication. It’s extremely gentle and usable with comfortable ease. So happy that this is offered!” – Donna C. (Read all reviews.)

8. LELO

Natural materials

Best For | Personal lube
Organic & Natural Ingredients | Water, aloe barbadensis leaf juice, guarana extract, ginseng extract, avena sativa extract; glycerin-free, paraben-free
Price | $20–$39

LELO, one of our editors favorite sex toy brands, has two standout water-based lube options worth knowing about. The Personal Moisturizer is a super versatile, everyday essential made without glycerin or parabens, meaning it’s gentle enough for sensitive skin and won’t throw off your natural balance. If you want something a little more elevated, the F1L Advanced Performance Moisturizer takes things up a notch with a fine-tuned formula designed for longer-lasting, silkier slip that feels sleek (never sticky). It’s also water-based, hypoallergenic, glycerin-free, and paraben-free, making it a great option for condom use and for anyone prone to irritation!

Our Editor’s Review |“LELO’s personal moisturizer is, in my opinion, a great, straightforward, no-thrills intimate lubricant that ticks all the most important boxes.” – Stephanie Fallon, Contributing Editor [Read our full review.]

9. Unbound Babes

Natural materials

Vegan

Woman owned

Best For | Scent
Organic & Natural Ingredients | Organic aloe barbadensis leaf juice, natural food-grade flavors; glycerin-free, paraben-free
Price | $18

Unbound Babes Jelly lubricant keeps things simple and skin-friendly. This water-based formula is made with 95% organic ingredients, including soothing aloe, and has a light hint of vanilla and lemon that makes it subtly sweet without being overpowering. It’s incredibly gentle on sensitive areas, pregnancy-safe, and balanced to a pH range of 4.3–4.8, which is close to the body’s natural vaginal pH. Free from glycerin, glycol, parabens, and petrochemicals, it’s also 100% vegan and lasts up to 24 months after opening — perfect for keeping on hand whenever the mood strikes!

Customer Review |“Love the feel, love the mild smell and taste!” – Mary R. (Read all reviews.)

Featured image from Maude

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Instead of worrying about what to say next, I can turn to the list below, use a conversation deck, or even create my own prompts. All it takes is a little curiosity and a willingness to dive in—because every great connection begins with a meaningful conversation!

Have you had a good conversation lately? Jump to the comments below and share your favorite topics!

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Conversation topics for anyone

1. Which scent do you find the most soothing?

2. What is a language you love to listen to even if you don’t speak or understand it?

3. Oceans or mountains? Why?

4. Describe the most captivating painting or artwork you’ve ever seen.

5. Do you remember the first novel you ever read? If so, what was it?

6. What is your favorite thing about your personality?

“What is your favorite thing about your personality?”

7. If you could have a fictional superhero for a best friend, who would it be?

8. What color would you choose to describe yourself?

9. What is something you have accomplished as an adult that your younger self would be proud of?

10. Is there a place in the world that you feel most represents who you are?

11. Where is one place you’d love to travel to again?

12. If your pet could talk, what would their voice sound like? What would they say about you?

13. What does your name mean?

14. What tasks make you feel like your best self?

15. What’s your Enneagram number and how does it influence your self-care practices?

16. Where do you feel most centered and happy?

17. What’s your favorite comfort food?

18. What do you wear when you’re feeling your very best, and why?

19. What is the best meal you’ve ever had, and what’s the best meal you’ve ever cooked for yourself?

20. What do you love most about your home?

“What do you love most about your home?”

21. What’s a yearbook-style superlative you’d give to your high school self? What’s one for your current self?

22. What gives you goosebumps?

23. Do you know your astrology sign? How about your birth chart?

24. How are you consciously practicing sustainability?

25. Do you have any tattoos?

26. Scuba diving or skydiving?

27. What are you most grateful for in this season of life?

28. Do you give back or volunteer with any organizations?

29. What’s your love language?

Conversation topics for friends

30. What do you look for and need in your friendships?

31. How do you feel that you best offer love and support to your friends?

32. Tell me about your childhood best friend.

33. When do you feel most authentically yourself?

34. What’s one form of self-expression you’ve been too hesitant to explore?

“What’s one habit you want to get rid of and one habit you want to keep?”

35. What’s one habit you want to get rid of and one habit you want to keep?

36. What was your first experience with sex like?

37. If you were to perform a duet with a famous musician, who would it be and why?

38. Do you have any recurring dreams? If so, what do you think they are trying to tell you?

39. Who do you most admire, and how has that impacted the way you live your life?

Conversation topics for your parents

40. What’s one thing you’d tell yourself at my age? What’s one thing your younger self would tell you?

41. What do you wish you’d known before having kids?

42. What was the first big purchase you made as an adult?

43. How did you know when you fell in love?

“What was the first big purchase you made as an adult?”

44. Have you kept any memorabilia from your childhood?

45. What do you miss most about being a child? A teenager? My age?

46. What about the current world would be most surprising to your younger self?

47. If you could travel back in time, which part of your life would you go back to?

48. Who did you vote for in past elections? Why?

49. What are some of your favorite memories about your parents?

Conversation topics for kids

50. If you could have one cartoon character be your real-life best friend, who would you choose and why?

51. What’s your earliest memory?

52. What do you love most about school?

53. Who are your best friends?

“What does a perfect day with the family look like?”

54. What is your favorite season?

55. What superpower do you wish you had?

56. What do you want to be when you grow up?

57. If you could have any animal as a pet, which would you choose and why?

58. What does a perfect day with the family look like?

59. What do you love most about our house?

Conversation topics for date night

60. How do you feel best supported in hard times?

61. What does “alone time” look like for you?

62. Dogs or cats (or rabbits)?

63. What do you wish people better understood about you?

“What does ‘alone time’ look like for you?”

64. What lessons from your childhood have most impacted your worldview?

65. If we could live in another country for a year (no strings attached), where would we go?

66. What do you love most about our relationship? What do you wish to work on?

67. What small joys bring light to your day?

68. How can we better practice sustainability as a couple?

69. What’s a favorite memory you have of us together?

Conversation topics for siblings

70. What’s one of your favorite memories from our childhood?

71. What do you think everyone in the family will be doing 10 years from now?

“Which characteristics do you think you inherited from our parents?”

72. Do you have a morning routine?

73. What was your favorite subject in school? Favorite teacher?

74. Which characteristics do you think you inherited from our parents?

75. If you could return to school, what would you study?

76. What Netflix show or movie are you watching?

77. What are you currently reading?

78. What food reminds you most of home?

79. What do you love most about yourself?

Conversation topics for work

80. What accomplishments are you most proud of?

81. What projects are you working on right now that bring you joy?

82. How do you unwind after work?

83. Do you listen to any podcasts during your commute? If so, which ones?

“How do you track your work goals and accomplishments?”

84. What do you enjoy most about our company?

85. Where do you need support that you’re not getting it?

86. How do you track your work goals and accomplishments?

87. Do you enjoy networking? Why or why not?

88. What was your very first job?

89. What skills are you focused on cultivating right now?

Conversation topics for strangers

90. How are you truly doing?

91. What’s one act of kindness you experienced today?

92. What do you do for enjoyment?

93. Do you recharge by being around other people or by spending time alone?

“What is the compliment you receive most often?”

94. If you had a day to yourself, what would it look like, where would you go, and what would you do?

95. What is the compliment you receive most often?

96. Do you collect anything?

97. What was the last movie you watched?

98. What’s one thing your loved ones would be surprised to learn about you?

99. If you woke up one morning and all your problems were solved, how would you go about your day?

Kayti Christian is a Senior Content Strategist at The Good Trade. With an MFA in Nonfiction Creative Writing, her work has appeared in TODAY, Shondaland, and The New York Times. Since 2017, Kayti has been uncovering and reviewing the best sustainable home brands and wellness products. Her personal journey through four years of fertility treatments has inspired her to write extensively about women’s healthcare and reproductive access. Beyond her work at The Good Trade, Kayti is the creator of phone notes, a Substack newsletter with 7,000 subscribers, and the cohost of the FriedEggs Podcast, which delves into IVF and infertility.

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We’ve researched the best online couples therapy platforms — these are our top choices that are inclusive, discreet, and offer affordable pricing or insurance coverage.

Relationship and marriage counseling is perfectly normal. Romantic comedies often paint relationships as easy — effortless, even. But the truth is that a commitment to someone isn’t a set-it-and-forget-it kind of thing. Relationships require maintenance, especially as circumstances shift and change.

Perhaps you’ve mastered the art of open and honest communication or you share love languages with your partner. If so, congratulations — you’ve cracked the age-old code! If you’re finding it to be a particular challenge though, know that you’re not alone. Every partnership has annoyances, complications, and miscommunications — you’re each growing! And, whether it’s a big hurdle or a small hiccup, couples therapy can help you return to smoother sailing.

Why consider virtual couples therapy?

Online couples therapy can be a great option for people seeking accessible ways to improve their relationships. You’ll be able to access therapy in the comfort of your own space without the need to travel, helping you save time and money (it’s also discreet). You’ll have access to a wider range of therapists — perhaps someone who understands your specific needs — rather than being limited to services in your area. Virtual couples therapy is often more flexible too, with a larger array of available times that can work better for you and your partner’s schedule.

What should you look for in a therapy service?

With so many different types of therapy services out there, what should you look for when finding the right therapist for you? It’s important to ensure the therapist you select is licensed with verifiable credentials, and specializes in working with couples specifically. There are also various couples therapeutic techniques, including EFT, CBT, and the Gottman Method, so be sure you understand these differences and research or discuss with your therapist to find out if their approach is the right fit for you and your partner’s needs. Be sure to also inquire whether the therapist or therapy service accepts insurance, or offers financial assistance or lower-cost therapy options, as needed. 

“There is no shame in seeking help — and going to therapy together isn’t a sign of failure.”

And most importantly, compatibility is everything! Feeling comfortable and heard is essential to successful therapy, so make sure you feel confident that you and your partner can build a strong relationship with your therapist.

How much does online couples therapy cost?

Online couples therapy can cost on average anywhere from $40 to $275 per session, depending on the platform, therapist’s experience, and session length. Subscription-based therapy services typically cost $65 to $90 per week, which can also include unlimited messaging. If you go with a private therapist, expect to pay $100 to $200 per session, though some therapy networks even offer low-cost therapy through sliding-scale rates. You’ll find most of the couples therapy services we’ve featured below can range anywhere on average from $160/month for online couples counselling, all the way up to $3500 for a couples counselling retreat.

We’ve also included affordable therapy services on this list that charge per session, starting at $40, as well as self-guided counselling apps, which start as low as $12 per month. Insurance might cover part of the cost, but not all plans include couples therapy — we’ve noted which one of these recommended therapy services accept insurance. Overall, we’ve included a wide range of options, whether you’re looking for budget-friendly help or premium sessions with top professionals.

Whether you need mediation for discussions around parenting, emotional connection, or even if you’re looking to improve your sex life, there’s a therapist who can support you. (You can even find a professional to help transition you through a separation mindfully.) 

Just remember: There is no shame in seeking help — and going to therapy together isn’t a sign of failure.

Our criteria:

Our team has researched dozens of couples therapy platforms and scoured thousands of online reviews to select our best options for couple therapy. We regularly update this list with emerging platforms that meet our criteria.

• INCLUSIVE | Each of these virtual couples therapy services provides an inclusive range of therapists from different backgrounds, ensuring you’ll find a therapist that fits your needs and can deeply resonate with your life experiences.
• AFFORDABLE | Most of these online therapy platforms offer therapists at an affordable price range and/or offer flexible terms (including one option that accepts insurance).
• PRIVATE | Each of these virtual therapy services work hard to keep your data safe through encryption, with many platforms adhering to HIPAA compliant practices.

Be sure to also check out our list of affordable online therapy for individuals (because a relationship is only as healthy as the people who are in it!). If you are seeking a therapist with your shared experience, you can search for therapists via Inclusive Therapists and the National Queer and Trans Therapists of Color Network. Or, if you’d prefer to meet with a therapist in person or in a hybrid setting, here’s our go-to guide on finding the therapist right for you.

Best For Privacy And Compliance | Quick Counselor Matching | Most Affordable

1. Talkspace

Accepts insurance

HIPAA compliant

Intimacy counseling

LGBTQ friendly

Licensed therapists

Multiple languages

Text message availability

Best For | Direct messaging with therapists
Features | Relationship, marriage, or premarital counseling, text messaging or video sessions
HIPAA Compliant | Yes
Insurance Accepted | Yes, check your coverage
Pricing | Starts at $69/week (live sessions & unlimited messaging)

Knowing where to start can be half the battle, and Talkspace’s couples therapy can help you identify the issues in your relationship. You can seek support for yourself as an individual, or work with your partner and an unbiased professional to open new paths of communication, restore trust, and find solutions that work for your relationship. Talkspace offers both video sessions and accessible messaging, so you can get support no matter what your schedule looks like.

Customer Review | “We were paired with a super helpful couples therapist and even in just a few short months, our marriage feels back on track. Highly recommend it, and the app just makes the service even easier to use on the go.” – Annecharbs (Read all reviews.)

2. OurRitual

Budget friendly

Intimacy counseling

Licensed therapists

Subscriptions available

Best For | Accessible & flexible relationship guidance
Features | Personalized plans, 1:1 weekly sessions with an expert, uses EFT & the Gottman Method, encrypted platform
HIPAA Compliant | No (does not share any information with third parties)
Insurance Accepted | No, lower cost service
Pricing | Starts at $128/month for a single person; $208/month for a couple

Tackle your relationship issues head-on with OurRitual’s guided in-app service. With simply 20 minutes a day and a personalized plan catered to your relationship needs, OurRitual uses exercises, journaling, and 1:1 support to help you and your partner get back on track. Each session provides videos and tasks that are evidence-based and tried-and-tested methods to help you both integrate new approaches into your relationship successfully. OurRitual is proof that knowledge is power and learning new tools can make a world of a difference.   

Customer Review | “For years we’ve had this recurring fight. Tonight when it came up, we took a step back and rewatched the video together. It changed EVERYTHING! Turned an old argument into a good conversation.” – Veronica (Read all reviews.)

3. Regain 

Intimacy counseling

LGBTQ friendly

Licensed therapists

Subscriptions available

Text message availability

Best For | Quick counselor matching
Features | All therapists are licensed, have at least 3 years of experience & at least 1000 hours on hands-on experience
HIPAA Compliant | No; system is encrypted
Insurance Accepted | No, offers lower cost therapy 
Pricing | $65 to $90/week (billed every 4 weeks)

As part of the BetterHelp network (a top choice for individual online therapy), Regain was specifically created with couples in mind. Fill out a survey with your current relationship needs and get matched with a counselor in a few days. Your therapist will be licensed and certified, and has experience in relationship counseling — so you can navigate any chapter (whether it’s together on a joint account, or you’re doing some work on your own!).

Customer Review | “I am really enjoying this service. I was skeptical at first, but being that you have the ability to have video therapy sessions is great. You’re still able to have a “face to face” conversation but in your own comfort. Having the ability to message my therapist throughout the week is a great plus too. My therapist, Deborah, is absolutely amazing. She’s a great listener, provides great advice, and helps me dig deeper with the questions she asks. I’ve only had 2 sessions with her and I’m feeling very optimistic. Would definitely recommend her.” – Anonymous (Read all reviews.)

4. Couples Therapy Inc.

HIPAA compliant

Intimacy counseling

Licensed therapists

Multiple languages

Text message availability

Best For | Coaching & sex therapy
Features | Evidence-based retreats, courses, & intensive therapy sessions, multiple languages & countries served, in-person options
HIPAA Compliant | Yes
Insurance Accepted | No, alternative options available
Pricing | Online coaching sessions start at $150/session; weekend retreats start at $3500

Working with couples isn’t a niche service for Couples Therapy Inc. — it’s the core focus of this team of Gottman-certified clinicians. After the founder herself experienced sub-par couples counseling, she devoted her practice to science-based coaching, therapy, and retreats (including online retreats). Couples Therapy Inc. also offers international therapists that service in Germany, Great Britain, and Canada.

Customer Review | “Couples Therapy Inc. is serious business – no margaritas, group sessions or yoga classes… a science-based intensive one-on-one retreat addressing your relationship issues head on with a skilled doctoral or masters-level couples therapist.”  – Anonymous (Read all reviews.)

5. Open Path

Budget friendly

Intimacy counseling

LGBTQ friendly

Licensed therapists

Multiple languages

Best For | Affordable therapy
Features | Online & in-person services, nonprofit network
HIPAA Compliant | No (not a healthcare company); mental health clinicians must oblige with HIPAA
Insurance Accepted | No, offers lower cost therapy
Pricing | One-time $65 membership fee; starts at $40/session

While not exclusively online, Open Path is a nonprofit network of mental health professionals offering affordable psychotherapy options for low- and middle-income patients. You’ll find your next therapist through the search function (be sure to search for providers in the state in which you live). Open Path is excellent for people with financial limitations, charging only $40 – $70 per session for couples after the one-time registration fee.

Customer Review | “Open Path may have truly saved me in a very desperate time of needed guidance. I needed perspective and a safe place to figure out how to direct the next part of my journey. Open Path allowed me to easily find someone who matched my needs and I feel very grateful for Open Path and my counselor, that I otherwise could not afford. It’s still tough but it’s worth every bit of every cent spent taking care of myself. Thank you to all of you who provide this service on a sliding scale, truly grateful!” – Jasmine (Read all reviews.)

A bonus option

Lasting

Budget friendly

Intimacy counseling

Subscriptions available

Best For | Self-guided relationship counseling
Features | iPhone & Android app, free trial, research-based sessions & courses, individual therapy options
HIPAA Compliant | No
Insurance Accepted | No, low-cost courses
Pricing | Starts at $12/month

Lasting’s aim is simple: “Show everyone how to love better,” through its couples counseling app. While you won’t speak directly with a counselor, this app is designed by therapists for couples (and couples’ therapists!) to support a deeper, more communicative partnership. Use Lasting on its own and enjoy the workshops and courses on topics like repair, family culture, and sexual desire, or pair it with other virtual or in-person sessions for even greater accountability and long-term support.

Customer Review | “OMG! Amazing App! It only had been a couple of days. My marriage had improved enormously. This app has fantastic workshops, questions, and sessions that have helped strengthen my relationship with my wife. The unique part, in my opinion, is that every day they ask us to talk about something important. They also have reminders such as saying to your wife you love her. Or something that makes her smile. Those reminders helped me a lot to make sure my wife know I appreciated her. My wife and I see a couple therapist, and the app has helped us more in a couple of days than the real-life therapist. I recommend this app to any couple who really wants to build a stronger relationship.” – Anonymous (Read all reviews.)

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Our editors have worn and loved sustainable jewelry for years — these are our favorite brands for ethical engagement and wedding rings at a range of price points.

For socially conscious couples, an ethically sourced engagement ring is a must and, thankfully, there is a range of stunning and affordable options! When it comes time to pop the big question, we’re looking for jewelry that not only looks beautiful — but is also made with recycled or fair trade gold, as well as conflict-free diamonds and jewels. 

Why choose ethical engagement and wedding rings?

When it comes to choosing the perfect engagement ring, there are both human rights and environmental concerns to be considered. The harvesting of diamonds has a history of fueling conflict, and the mining of precious metals is often damaging to the environment. Beyond this, miners are frequently denied fair wages and adequate health and safety provisions.

Ethical rings, on the other hand, often come from suppliers adhering to fair trade principles, ensuring safe working conditions and fair pay, and investing in community development. Sustainable options like recycled metals and lab-grown diamonds help reduce environmental harm and ethical concerns surrounding traditional diamond and metal mining. Companies that are committed to ethical practices also provide transparency in their supply chains, offering peace of mind when it comes time to purchase your engagement or wedding ring. By choosing ethical jewelry, you’ll be presenting not only a commitment to your loved one, but a commitment to the planet and humanity!

What should you look for when shopping for ethical, sustainable rings?

When shopping for an ethical, sustainable ring, it’s important to consider where the materials come from and how they’re sourced. Look for diamonds certified through the Kimberley Process, a system designed to prevent the trade of conflict diamonds. Additional certifications such as Fairmined or Fair Trade gold help ensure your jewelry also meets fair wage, ethical labor, and environmental responsibility practices. Recycled metals are another great option, as they reduce the need for new mining while still offering high-quality materials.

For those looking to avoid mining altogether, lab-grown diamonds provide a stunning, ethical alternative. These diamonds are chemically and visually identical to mined diamonds but are created in controlled environments, eliminating the social and environmental damage associated with traditional mining. They often have a significantly lower carbon footprint, especially when produced using renewable energy. Beyond diamonds, other lab-created gemstones like moissanite and sapphires are great choices that don’t carry the ethical concerns of traditional mining.

Of course one of the top ways to shop sustainably is by choosing pre-loved or antique rings. Vintage jewelry not only carries unique charm and history, but it also completely bypasses the need for new mining, making it one of the most environmentally friendly options. Estate jewelry stores, antique dealers, and even online marketplaces offer a wide selection of rings from different eras, from solitaire diamond rings to something unique! Whether you opt for a recycled, lab-grown, or pre-loved ring, prioritizing transparency and ethical sourcing ensures your jewelry reflects both beauty and responsibility.

Our criteria:

Our editors have cherished their own sustainable and ethical jewelry for years. For this list, we’ve compiled our favorite jewelers with ethical commitments so your engagement or wedding ring can be stunning, conflict-free, and even affordable. We continually add new favorites to the list that meet the following criteria.

• SUSTAINABLE | These ethical jewelry brands take sustainability seriously ensuring each of their jewelry pieces are made with eco-friendly materials like recycled gold and gemstones. 
• ETHICAL & CONFLICT-FREE | Each one of these ethical jewelry brands strictly uses only conflict-free diamond and gemstones in their jewelry, whether certified by the Kimberly process or grown in a lab. 
• AFFORDABLE | Gold and diamond jewelry can be expensive, so we’ve included plenty of affordable options on this list that don’t sacrifice on quality and ethics.

Additionally, second hand rings from auction sites like eBay, vintage finds on Etsy, and online or local consignment shops are a great option if you’re looking for something that’s new-to-you without the new carbon footprint.

For further sustainable wedding brands, check out our guide to men’s ethical wedding bands and eco-friendly wedding dresses!

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1. Brilliant Earth

Eco friendly packaging

Gives back

Made to order

Natural materials

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Best For | Conflict-free gemstones
Features | Beyond Conflict Free diamonds, conflict-free & ethical gemstones, lab-grown diamonds, recycled metals, fairmined gold, design your own engagement ring
Price Range | $520 – $6,090+

Brilliant Earth is a pioneer in ethical jewelry, one of the first to provide traceability and always going above and beyond the industry benchmarks of conflict-free gems. They adhere to strict guidelines for mining practices and standards that ensure their gems have ethical and environmentally responsible origins. If the provenance of your diamond is something you care about, you will have no trouble tracing your Brilliant Earth gem: Claims for natural diamonds, recycled gold, and recycled diamonds are independently audited and verified, so you know you can trust them!

Customer Review | “Brilliant Earth has a wide range of diamonds to offer, with ten different styles, multiple carats, cuts, and colors. Their selection of Lab Diamonds and Lab Created Colored Diamonds is unmatched.” – Your Diamond Guru (Read all reviews.)

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2. Vintage Engagement Rings on Etsy

Budget friendly

Handcrafted

Made to order

Recycled materials

Second hand

Small business

Best For | Unique & antique rings
Features | Recycled, upcycled & vintage rings, ethically-sourced diamonds & gemstones, lab grown diamonds, handmade engagement rings
Price Range | Varies

One of the simplest ways to become more sustainable (and create less waste) is to wear and use your items for longer. And this can include your jewelry! On Etsy, engagement rings from all over the world are given a second life. As shoppers can filter their options by desired gemstone, shape, band material, price, and more, you’re bound to find something you’ll love. Some of our favorites include Estate Antique Jewelry, Cileone Jewelry, and Pebble and Polish. Etsy also offsets 100 percent of carbon emissions from shipping, so every time you make a purchase you’re creating a positive environmental impact.

Customer Review | “Gorgeous ring made for a memorable anniversary gift. Great, super prompt shipping and friendly service. Highly recommended!” – buzzanderson (Read all reviews.)

3. Mejuri

BIPOC Owned

Budget friendly

Gives back

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Woman owned

Best For | Affordable rings for all genders
Features | Responsibly sourced lab grown diamonds, carbon neutral lab grown diamonds, recycled gold & silver
Price Range | $148 – $3,900

Mejuri’s fine jewelry is more than just “fine”… it’s impeccable. In addition to everyday pieces, you can find engagement rings and bands for all genders. Rings are made with ethically sourced natural gemstones and conflict-free diamonds – and 80 percent of gold used is recycled with the other 20 percent certified responsible. (Read more in our Mejuri review). Production takes place around the world including Canada, India, Italy, and Korea where makers have safe and fair working environments. Mejuri also gives back to women and nonbinary folks through its Empowerment Fund. Get a ring that will have a lifetime of memories and impact.

Customer Review | “I have purchased several items from Mejuri including rings, earrings, necklaces and charms. The quality is excellent, the pieces are worn daily and both myself and the people I have gifted to enjoy their beauty and resilience to everyday wear.” – Laura (Read all reviews.)

4. Blue Nile

American made

Eco friendly packaging

Handcrafted

Made to order

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Best For | Lifetime diamond upgrade & diamond price matching programs
Features | 100 percent responsibly-mined conflict-free diamonds, gemstone options, build-your-own-ring
Price Range | $540 – $18,350+ (setting price)

Founded in 1999, Blue Nile was one of the first jewelers to offer high-quality diamonds at great value through their innovative online business model. The company prioritizes transparency and exceptional service, through their team of non-commissioned jewelry experts that are dedicated to customer excellence. Blue Nile handcrafts their engagement rings and fine jewelry at their New York headquarters, helping you design the perfect pieces for any occasion. They solely utilize ethically sourced diamonds that are 100% conflict-free and compliant with the Kimberley process. Blue Nile stands out from the rest through their diamond price-match guarantee and lifetime upgrade programs for GIA-graded diamonds, ultimately highlighting their commitment to being your trusted jeweler for life!

Customer Review | “The ease of picking a diamond and band was so easy it was incredible. I went browsing at local shops and NOTHING compares to the quality selection you get with Blue Nile. Don’t waste your time with these retail stores, Blue Nile makes it easy and their representatives are super friendly and are amazing people.” – Bryan R. (Read all reviews.)

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5. Bario Neal 

Climate neutral

Gender inclusive

Gives back

Handcrafted

Made to order

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Woman owned

Best For | Customized & cluster rings
Features | Fairmined gold, traceable gemstones, reclaimed metals, recycled diamonds, lab-grown diamonds, personalized rings
Price Range | $70 – $11,430+

A longtime supporter of LGBTQ+ rights and worldwide marriage equality, Philadelphia- and Brooklyn-based jeweler Bario Neal can craft custom rings truly reflective of our relationships — from personalizations to reworking heirloom materials. The women-owned company also uses recycled metals, traceable stones, and Fairmined certified gold for its handmade pieces. And we don’t know anyone who can curate a cluster ring quite like this. If you’re feeling a little lost on how to even start ring shopping, we spoke with Bario Neal to determine some helpful questions to guide your journey!

Customer Review | “I’ve been shopping at Bario Neal since before they had a storefront. I have a variety of pieces from them from fine to fun and they always deliver on values, quality, and design. I wish there were a business like Bario Neal in every domain. Then we could shop freely and know we were doing little harm and getting great products.” – Amanda F. (Read all reviews.)

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6. Aurate

American made

Budget friendly

Gives back

Made to order

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Woman owned

Best For | Minimalist wedding bands made in the USA
Features | Ethically-sourced diamonds, lab-grown diamonds, recycled gold, bespoke rings
Price Range | $2,400 – $4,500

Aurate believes you shouldn’t have to choose between high quality, fair pricing, and doing good when it comes to purchasing jewelry. The brand goes beyond the Kimberley Process and tracks every natural diamond from mine to its local New York workshop to ensure it comes from verifiably ethical and environmentally sound sources; you can also choose from lab-grown diamonds if that’s your preference. Every ring comes with a certificate of authenticity, and Aurate’s proceeds regularly support orgs like Mastery Charter and She Should Run.

Customer Review | “This ring was much lovelier and heavier than I expected for the “mini” ring. Very nice quality!” – Judith F. (Read all reviews.)

7. Catori Life

1% for the planet

American made

Eco friendly packaging

Gives back

Natural materials

Plant trees

Best For | Signet & gemstone rings
Features | Ethically-sourced & reclaimed materials & diamonds
Price Range | $62 – $1,890

Catori Life crafts ethically made jewelry right here in the USA using the most unique reclaimed materials. From natural diamonds, to black tourmaline, to larimar, and even ancient grey diamonds, there’s no shortage of making a statement with one of these exceptional rings! The brand explains the intention behind the use of each metal and stone, revealing just how much thought goes into the creation process of each item of jewelry. Your purchase also supports causes like 1% for the planet and the Eden Reforestation Project.

Customer Review | “I love all of my pieces from Catori. This is no exception. 🩷“ – Cara E. (Read all reviews.)

8. James Allen

American made

Made to order

Warranty offered

Best For | Designer collections, loose diamonds, lifetime warranty, 24/7 customer service
Features | Custom rings, 500,00+ certified conflict-free diamonds,
Price Range | $1,590 – $101,200

Since 2006, the four minds behind James Allen have turned the brand from an idea to the largest privately held online diamond retailer worldwide. With more than 200,000 conflict-free diamonds, every setting imaginable, pre-made designer collections, and even loose diamonds, you can create the ring of your dreams with confidence. Even better: James Allen offers 24/7 customer service with real-time inspection, so you can see what gemologists are seeing. There’s a 100 percent money-back guarantee if you’re not happy for any reason. It’s no secret why James Allen has grown to be one of the most reputable conflict-free retailers in the world.

Customer Review | “You will never be able to select diamonds from a larger inventory at a brick and mortar. I hand-picked my stone and designed the ring just as I envisioned it and it came out perfect. Thank you James Allen!” – Nygil F. (Read all reviews.)

9. Catbird

American made

Gives back

Handcrafted

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Woman owned

Best For | Variety of designers & styles
Features | Recycled gold, conflict-free stones, personalized rings
Price Range | $230 – $13,800

Catbird has been based out of Brooklyn for the last 18 years, and the brand only keeps growing. Many pieces are handmade in a small Brooklyn studio, using recycled gold, while all of the stones are conflict-free. Its inventory of engagement rings is crafted by a variety of designers like Erstwhile, Gillian Conroy, and Kataoka, in addition to the Catbird Wedding line. Named after princesses, swans, and fairytales, your partner will feel like royalty with one of these beautiful and exquisite pieces.

Customer Review | “Every package I get from Catbird is an event. It’s nicely wrapped, with charming extras, and the jewelry itself is polished, beautiful, dainty, and surprisingly durable. (I wear my necklace and rings every day, and I’m a teacher.) Just wanted to say thank you for your attention to detail. Your entire team, from design to execution to packaging & shipping, is outstanding.With love, from a happy customer.” – D. (Read all reviews.)

10. Taylor & Hart

American made

Fair trade

Made to order

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Best For | Custom rings
Features | Fair trade & recycled metals, Canadamark diamonds, Diamond Time Lapse diamonds, ethically-sourced diamonds
Price Range | $840 – $15,195+

An utterly bespoke process, we love that Taylor & Hart walks you through creating your perfect piece. The company goes beyond the Kimberley Process to ensure that the diamonds are conflict-free, and believes that by purchasing an ethically crafted ring, one of the greatest moments of your life can also be a small step towards a better world. Taylor & Hart will work closely with you through personal consultation to design the perfect ring within four weeks.

Customer Review | “The whole process was really easy and the delivery was on time. Customer service were great answering any questions and I would highly recommend them as the final product is perfect!” – Nick (Read all reviews.)

11. Vrai

American made

Gives back

Made to order

Plant trees

Warranty offered

Woman owned

Best For | Simple, clean styles
Features | Custom, made-to-order engagement rings, American lab-grown diamonds, GIA diamond grades
Price Range | $900 – $3,300+

Committed to transparency and quality, Vrai (truth in French; gold in Spanish) crafts engagement rings without the markups. The collection includes pieces with either white or black diamonds, stacking rings, and various stone sizes, striking the perfect balance between simple and unique. Made in the USA with lab-created diamonds from Diamond Foundry (also made in the USA), getting back to basics has never been easier.

12. Plum Diamonds

American made

Made to order

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Woman owned

Best For | Recycled metals, lab-grown diamonds
Features | Woman-owned & operated, RJC certified, American lab-grown diamonds, recycled gold & metals
Price Range | $910 – $3,490+

Plum Diamonds combines quality, sustainability, and ethics in every piece of jewelry they create. As a women-owned brand, they craft stunning rings using lab-grown diamonds, which are conflict-free and environmentally friendly (not to mention more affordable than their mined counterparts). Their commitment to sustainability extends to using 100% recycled metals and maintaining their RJC certification, ensuring ethical labor practices, responsible sourcing, and minimal environmental impact. Partnering with SCS-007-certified diamond growers, they guarantee traceable, climate-neutral diamonds that are as responsible as they are stunning!

Customer Review | “I am absolutely in love with my engagement ring! It’s stunning! The sparkle, the design, everything about it just feels so special and meaningful. Every time I look at it, I can’t help but smile. It’s perfect in every way, and I’m beyond thrilled!” – Brian S. (Read all reviews.)

13. Sofia Kaman

American made

Handcrafted

Recycled materials

Woman owned

Best For | One-of-a-kind rings
Features | Recycled metals, conflict-free diamonds, lab-grown diamonds, bespoke rings, antique diamonds
Price Range | $2,640 – $85,000

If you’re looking for an eco-friendly ring, Sofia Kaman has a lot to offer. Whether you want a band made of recycled metal or an antique gem that won’t result in any additional environmental costs, the company’s selections are romantic, modern, and everything in between. And they’re all handcrafted in Los Angeles. When it comes to diamonds, Sofia Kaman sources its stones through dealers who abide by the Kimberley Process and can guarantee them to be conflict-free. Or, you can work with the company to create a custom ring using a lab-grown diamond that was made with renewable energy!

14. Valerie Madison

BIPOC Owned

Made to order

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Woman owned

Best For | Responsibly sourced diamond alternatives
Features | Custom orders, heirloom reworks, moissanite & gemstone rings
Price Range | $450 – $15,750

If mainstream diamonds aren’t your best friend, we recommend Valerie Madison’s gorgeous alternative engagement rings. The brand’s rings and bands are made with recycled gold and diamonds, ethically sourced gems, and diamond alternatives such as lab-produced Moissanite. Choose from an array of pre-made stunners, or create a custom one of your own (see past custom orders here), with beautiful options like salt & pepper diamonds, teal sapphires, or lavender spinel. If you live near Seattle, you can also schedule a consultation or pick-up at Valerie Madison’s new showroom in the Madrona neighborhood to further lower your carbon footprint. 

15. WWAKE

American made

BIPOC Owned

Gives back

Made to order

Recycled materials

Warranty offered

Woman owned

Best For | Extra-thin or extra-chunky rings
Features | Custom & heirloom designs, responsibly sourced materials
Price Range | $240 – $5,100+

Stared by Wing Yau in 2012, WWAKE was built with the dream to “merge art with the intimacy of jewelry.” That ethos shines through most clearly in its unique line of wedding and engagement rings. Whether you prefer delicate bands with beautiful gemstones or chunky rings with a standout diamond, WWAKE makes options for every hand (or partner!). Every piece is handmade in its NYC to keep its carbon footprint as low as possible. Schedule a virtual consultation, stop by its Brooklyn studio, or see its inventory at Catbird — one of our other favorites for romantic jewelry.

16. Jennie Kwon Designs

American made

Fair trade

Made to order

Woman owned

Best For | Antique-inspired designs
Features | Fairmined gold, ethically sourced & conflict-free diamonds, custom rings
Price Range | $175 – $10,500

If art-deco spaces, Victorian-era jewelry, and Grecian design make your heart swoon, then you’ll love Jennie Kwon Designs. With a focus on “thoughtful jewelry with a soul,” this sustainable brand carries hundreds of stunners and made-to-order pieces for that special one in your life. Only ethically sourced and conflict-free stones as well as Fair Trade and Fairmined gold are used, so you can rest easy and support this woman-owned and led brand.

Customer Review | “Hello, I would just to love to say thank you for my beautiful engagement ring, it couldn’t be more beautiful or perfect. You made the process of coming in and finding this truly a wonderful experience for us. Thank you so much!!!”– Anonymous (Read all reviews.)

17. Automic Gold

BIPOC Owned

Budget friendly

Eco friendly packaging

Gender inclusive

Made to order

Recycled materials

Size inclusive

Small business

Warranty offered

Best For | Minimalist engagement bands that are size- & gender-inclusive
Features | Recycled metals & gemstones, lab-made stones, custom rings
Price Range | $292 – $2,565+

Automic Gold is redefining what it means to be inclusive, and we are here for it. This queer-owned brand handcrafts all sorts of sustainable fine jewelry out of its NYC studio, including earrings, necklaces, and of course, wedding rings. Responsibly sourced, all gold is certified recycled, diamonds are completely natural, and gemstones are ethically mined — and it’s all well-priced! Offering customization, engraving, and inclusive size options (2 – 16), there are rings for every gender, size, and style.

Featured image is from WWAKE

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There’s really no other way to describe it. I met them and we clicked immediately, or I felt a deep understanding between us that’s almost inexplicable. How is it that another person could see who I am so clearly, on a level beyond my own comprehension? 

“We tend to forget altogether that we can love just as deeply, fiercely, and continuously with friends.”

Soulmates are often talked about in the romantic context — the person we’re destined to be with, the person we find in every lifetime, the “one.” In a society where love is so often talked about inextricably from romance, we tend to forget altogether that we can love just as deeply, fiercely, and continuously with friends. 

I met one of my best friends, Tiff, for example, in college when we were randomly assigned suitemates. Both shy at first, we gently warmed up to each other, and then one night we let the conversation burst open over a jar of salsa and some tortilla chips. Just like that, we understood each other. I can say anything to this woman; nothing phases her. And I can tell what she’s thinking before she’s thinking it. We’ve moved through life together over the years, and it’s like the universe picked us for each other to do just that. 

Soulmates don’t have to be romantic. And these other connections are equally deep, fulfilling, and important. 

Platonic soulmates are people with whom we feel deep love and connection. It’s someone who understands us completely and sees us for exactly who we are. We don’t have to pretend, to act a certain way, to be anyone but exactly ourselves around them. They’re someone we need in our life, someone we feel drawn to, someone we love incredibly deeply but entirely platonically. 

“We don’t have to pretend, to act a certain way, to be anyone but exactly ourselves around them.”

Aristotle defined friendship as “one soul dwelling in two bodies.” What if this explains why we feel immediately at ease around certain people in our lives? What if this is why certain people understand us like no one else? What if this has nothing to do with romance or sex at all? 

Recently I was talking on the phone with my grandma, and she was telling me about how her friends are everything to her — their conversations, their laughter, their deep emotional connections are a lifeline. We lost my grandpa around two years ago, and one of the things that’s gotten her through her grief is the love from her friendships. And if I’m being honest, they’ve carried her through years of grief before that, too. My other grandma and her friends, too, have been constant sources of love and support throughout each others’ lives. And looking at them, seeing the way their friends are some of the strongest and deepest  — if not the strongest and deepest — connections in their lives, made me think about the power of allowing ourselves to be in community with other souls so deeply.

“Perhaps friendship isn’t one soul dwelling in two bodies, but rather a reflection of different aspects of ourselves.”

Perhaps friendship isn’t one soul dwelling in two bodies, but rather a reflection of different aspects of ourselves. Perhaps we are all souls in community with each other, and some — our soulmates — illuminate and bring out the best parts of ourselves more than others. 

I’m reminded of a quote from one of my favorite books, “They’re Going To Love You” by Meg Howrey, that shook me to my core: “What is the thing that happens in a friendship that isn’t the absence of sex? The thing added, that’s maybe only between women. Not a matter of our organs or whether we were born with them or what we do with them. It’s this: a particular kind of glory that happens when we share our suffering and are seen. There’s a rising — a cry, a rush, a beating of wings together. An exaltation.”

This unspoken and deep sense of knowing is what platonic soulmates offer — the ability to come to them and share the deepest, rawest parts of yourself and be met with nothing but complete understanding and empathy. 

“This unspoken and deep sense of knowing is what platonic soulmates offer.”

“Thinking a lot about my queer friendships and how beautiful it is to be loved beyond the confines and expectations and rules of compulsory cisheteronormativity. Truly, the greatest loves of my life have been friends,” painter and artist Lindsey Cherek Waller writes. I have one of her prints hanging in my living room with the latter half of that quote on it. 

Queer people have long existed outside of traditional expectations for friendships, romance, and love, and the idea of platonic soulmates comes really naturally to us. I know more than a few fellow queer people in my life who’ve stayed friends with people they’ve dated because they still want those connections in their life. I also know friends who love each other so deeply but not in a sexual way at all. They just love deeply and unapologetically. 

This kind of love, this understanding, this desire to see others and be seen for exactly who we are, is just as strong as the romantic love we see all around us. It’s just not as mainstream. But platonic love and platonic soulmates are essential. We need them to feel a deep sense of connection with fellow humans. 

“This desire to see others and be seen for exactly who we are, is just as strong as the romantic love we see all around us.”

And how lucky are we that we get to experience this?

We all need and deserve these types of connections in our lives. Not just because it feels good, but because it’s good for us. 

Studies have found that friendship is directly correlated with well-being and mental health, and has even been shown to positively affect aspects of our physical health, like cardiovascular health, especially with deep and meaningful friendships. Just think of how beneficial a friend who completely understands you and reflects the best parts of yourself back at you can be. That’s what platonic soulmates are. 

I have a writing group — we all happened to take the same writing workshop in the same session last summer — and somehow, magically, we have stayed connected. Across several months, timezones, borders, busy lives, breakups, new relationships, big projects, we feel a sense of understanding, a closeness. If one moment in time for any one of us had been different, if one tiny shift had kept any one of us from taking that class, we could’ve never met. But we did. And when we speak to each other, we breathe. We feel at ease. Because we understand each other like no one else. 

“If one tiny shift had kept any one of us from taking that class, we could’ve never met. But we did.”

My friend Mel wrote of this feeling, “We are more comfortable with each other than most of us are with people we’ve known longer, more intimately, more closely. We hug as much as we can, because we’re drawn to each other like magnets. We take care of each other, making sure frostbite is as far away as the hot summer days when we met. The words “I love you” tumble out of our mouths as naturally as breathing.” 

As naturally as breathing. That’s what platonic soulmates feel like. The ability to feel close to someone as naturally as taking a breath to say I see you, I understand you, I love you.

Brianna Schubert is a writer and editor based in Milwaukee, Wisconsin. She is a Contributing Editor at The Good Trade, an editorial assistant at Motley Bloom, and a freelance writer. She has a Bachelor of Arts in Journalism from the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee. Since 2023, Brianna has combined her expertise and investigative skills to deliver thoughtful reviews of sustainable products and home goods, helping readers make informed, eco-conscious choices. Brianna is also the writer behind The Mood Board, a Substack newsletter for creativity and inspiration. When she’s not writing, you can find her cooking up a new recipe, reading and recommending books, cuddling with her cat, or yapping with her friends at a café. Say hi on Instagram!

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“Online communities play a crucial role in connecting disabled people with each other, yet only 3% of the internet is accessible to disabled people.”

Lucía Feito Allonca is someone who has experienced this sense of normalcy firsthand.  Lucía and I know each other because she’s a strategic committee member of Voices in Action, a diabetes-focused not-for-profit that my spouse founded. Lucía told me that she used to be very private about living with type 1 diabetes, but being part of online communities made public disclosure feel less intimidating. She also told me that “I didn’t have that many people close to me living with type 1 diabetes. Then I discovered online communities. With access to these communities, you are not alone anymore.”

Since birth, I have lived with a neurological condition called dyspraxia. Dyspraxia presents challenges with the coordination, planning, and sequencing of movement. The core reason why I have found online community access particularly helpful is that dyspraxia can be a lonely journey. In fact, if you’ve never heard of it, you’re not the only one. Dyspraxia’s level of awareness and availability of resources is low globally. It wasn’t until the early days of the COVID pandemic that I met other dyspraxic people.

Friendships with dyspraxic people would never have been possible without online community access. Sometimes, I have managed to meet my online friends offline through the coincidence of being in the same city or at the same event. So far, I have had nothing but good experiences with in-person meetings. Every conversation has felt both comfortable and familiar. By the time we meet in person, there’s a strong sense of trust that we will find a way to reconnect.

How online communities address loneliness

You don’t have to meet in person to have a strong and worthwhile online friendship, because tackling loneliness is much more crucial. According to a British disability charity study on loneliness and disability, loneliness is “a mental health crisis that the disability community is facing,” a phenomenon not limited to the UK. So, why is this loneliness happening? And how are online communities making a difference, even without IRL meet-ups?

Pre-internet, all our relationships relied on communal experiences — work, schools, religious institutions, and restaurants, for example. It’s definitely still possible to have meaningful experiences in these settings. But there’s only one catch: Communal experiences are only enjoyable if the same social experiences and environments are as accessible to you as your neighbours, peers, and colleagues. Something that may be fun and easy to understand for your peers is something that you have to explain why it’s neither fun nor easy for you. Because not everyone is patient or understanding enough, the need to say that you can only participate if things are done differently can feel very intimidating. After all, the risk of peer stigma, bullying, and isolation is always lingering in the background.

“Communal experiences are only enjoyable if the same social experiences and environments are as accessible to you as your neighbours, peers, and colleagues.”

For instance, when I lived in Toronto, as much as I enjoyed yoga, I actually didn’t go to that many classes in person. That was largely because the instructor’s verbal instructions were conveyed without movement or visual demonstrations. Without movement or visual aids included in verbal instructions for movement-based activities, I cannot understand movements I haven’t practiced hundreds of times before. Since everyone else found verbal-based instructions straightforward to understand, asking for a different method of communication felt shameful, uncomfortable, and inconvenient. Much of my understanding and appreciation of yoga happened through practicing at my own pace and in my own environment.

Online disability communities typically serve a mutual purpose. Many of these communities are supportive and safe spaces to socialize in a context that feels comfortable to the entire community as a whole. Yet the answers to where to find online disability communities are much more complex than they used to be.

Accessibility to online communities in a new era 

X used to be a central discussion platform for the disability community. Yet, in its Elon Musk era, it’s an inaccessible platform for far too many disabled people. Everything from alt text to third-party applications that enable compatibility with screen readers is no longer widely available. Then there’s Meta, X’s competitor, which owns Instagram, Threads, and Facebook. Since Trump’s election, Meta has embraced right-wing policies and values. Because of Meta’s change in values, many disabled users have left Meta completely. Since both platforms are not as popular as they once were, users have scattered elsewhere. For so many disabled people, socializing online is the only option, so there is a rush to other platforms.

Take Mary Kilbane, for instance. Mary is an autistic and dyspraxic woman from Longford Town, a village in rural Ireland. Mary told me, “In our village, the only face-to-face social hub is the GAA football club. If you can’t kick a ball, that creates isolation. The GAA club is where people form connections for work, relationships, and marriage.”

Many of the skills required to take part in a football club aren’t what Mary is particularly good at. So, online communities allow her to interact with a supportive, neurodivergent-dominated peer group. Mary and I know each other from a virtual cardio fitness workout group, which is neurodivergent-run and consists of a proudly neurodivergent peer group. Typically, we meet up an average of once to twice a week to conduct an hour of gentle cardio stretches and friendly banter with one another. The main, unspoken rule of the group is that no one has to do any of the stretches perfectly; they just have to do the stretches in whatever way feels natural and comfortable for them.

“The main, unspoken rule of the group is that no one has to do any of the stretches perfectly; they just have to do the stretches in whatever way feels natural and comfortable for them.”

In addition to the fitness group, Mary is also part of her local Toastmasters group, a public speaking and communications skills development-focused not-for-profit. Both the fitness group and Toastmasters’ virtual programming are a central part of Mary’s peer group. Many of her experiences with online communities have been so positive that she said, “Online communities help me feel connected to the world.”

However, for Pippa Stacey, a core part of staying connected to the world is accessible event spaces. Pippa lives with Myalgic Encephalomyelitis/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (ME/CFS). Because of her disability, she felt invisible to the wider world for many years. Accessibility is never a promise or a guarantee on any given day, but online activities give her full control over her own surroundings. She also added, “Managing my chronic illness consumed so much energy and brain space. I was starting to forget who I was outside of it.”

“Accessibility is never a promise or a guarantee on any given day, but online activities give her full control over her own surroundings.”

Even still, online events aren’t always accessible enough to every disabled person. Jonathan Lazar once said, “Websites often offer opportunities for one group. Yet it excludes another.” A common reason why this occurs is due to the affordability or quality of the internet connection locally, but much of the inaccessibility occurs through having a one-dimensional view of what accessibility even means. For instance, we cannot call a virtual event accessible simply because one person with a disability that affects their mobility in their arms had the right devices and accessories to interact with a Zoom-based event. If there was also insufficient closed captioning for deaf participants and a lack of compatibility with nonverbal autistic people’s text-to-speech software, then something about the event’s accessibility efforts clearly isn’t working. Although the problem may also be due to the platform’s accessibility features. Since many of these communities are founded in response to the inaccessibility of certain activities, there’s always room for improvement. Often, all efforts made to improve are based on the feedback of other group members.

One such example of what this looks like is my fitness group. Many of my group members found Zoom difficult to navigate so we switched over to Discord instead. As a volunteer-run group, we lack the budget to buy a Zoom Pro account. On Zoom, we had the added hassle of having to log everyone back in again after the time limit. Also, some group members’ internet servers are unable to handle a Zoom call with many people. With Discord, we have encountered far fewer barriers so far.

How to find an online community that suits you

With all the above in mind, you’re likely wondering: How do you identify a group that will be a good fit for you? Finding the right online community for you doesn’t always happen immediately. It can take a bit of self-awareness of what your ideal online community looks like, a bit of time, and some patience to experience results. But the only way to know for sure is to take a chance on groups that are of interest to you. As Lucía Feito Allonca explained to me, “If you don’t feel comfortable, you don’t have to stay in a space that is not meant for you. But if you are comfortable, continue being part of that space and even helping co-create and build it.”

“The only way to know for sure is to take a chance on groups that are of interest to you.”

I’m currently in a place in my life where I have not yet found online community with others who have thyroid disease, a chronic illness I live with. I have met plenty of women with thyroid conditions in person, however. Many of these interactions have happened because of my thyroid surgery scar. The scar alone tends to start a lot of conversations with others who have had the same surgery. But since I am still a firm believer in the value of online friendships, given how helpful it has been for at least one of the disabilities I live with, I’m considering how to find it again.

Here’s what I know from my involvement with online communities: To avoid having a bad experience, look for groups where the emphasis is on supporting each other. That experience of everyone supporting each other equally is crucial, because of what the alternative happens to be: A select number of group members being treated like unpaid therapists while getting nothing in return.

“To avoid having a bad experience, look for groups where the emphasis is on supporting each other.”

The truly worthwhile groups are the ones providing peer support, an attribute with immense emotional benefits. The Independent Living Institute once pointed out that peer support is especially crucial because disabled people are experts on not only the barriers they face, but also the strategies that help them tackle these barriers. In the right disability community, your disability symptoms will start to feel normal because you are regularly interacting with people with mutual symptoms.

Tech platforms themselves may shift and change in the long run. But communities that are worth your time will always create accessible experiences. In groups that people come back to time and time again, there isn’t one leader. Everyone is welcome to take part in all efforts made to make future activities enjoyable for all.

“Tech platforms themselves may shift and change in the long run. But communities that are worth your time will always create accessible experiences.”

To be ready to engage with these groups in a meaningful way, it is best to be in a very specific mindset. Mary Kilbane is someone who has learned a great deal about what that looks like. Mary told me that you should “be in a good mental space first. Research groups through Trustpilot or reviews. If someone recommends a group, talk to them about it. Ask questions. Attend as a guest if possible and see how it feels before committing.”

Most importantly, however, you should always engage with the people you meet on these platforms with an open mind. Many of these groups are full of people with differing life experiences. With a willingness to mutually support each other, you are likely to have a positive experience. 

My final thoughts

Although online communities aren’t for everyone, those who experience the benefits soon learn that they are truly worth it. For that exact reason, online friendships should be treated as just as deep and meaningful as friendships formed exclusively offline. After all, online friendships can make such a huge difference in the lives of disabled people worldwide when truly supportive and kind people are involved.

“Online friendships should be treated as just as deep and meaningful as friendships formed exclusively offline.”

If you’re disabled, however, these groups may truly surprise you by introducing you to like-minded people who can change your perspective on your disability for the better. That benefit in particular is crucial, given that having accessibility needs that not everyone is willing to take seriously can be an emotionally draining experience to navigate.

Online friendships, however, give you access to a network of people who can equip you with lived experience-informed coping mechanisms and discuss the joys and struggles of being disabled in your everyday life.

Rosemary Richings is a writer, editor, and public speaker specializing in neurodiversity and the author of two books: “Stumbling Through Space and Time: Living Life With Dyspraxia” and “Studying With Dyspraxia.” Rosemary’s writing has been featured in Travel + Leisure, Broken Pencil Magazine, Happiful Magazine, and numerous other print and digital publications. She has also done writing and editing work for organizations such as eBay, Lexxic, Uptimize, Lokafy, and Yellowpages Canada. Past public speaking engagements include Reach PLC, Railpen, and Delinian’s disability education program.  Rosemary is on the board of trustees of Dyspraxic Me, a charity for dyspraxic young adults. 

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I am starting over.

I made the blanket when I was 15, from clearance Red Heart yarn I found at the local Walmart. I diligently crocheted a blanket for my surly grandfather, who had always teased me about my own blankie. When it was finished, in all its imperfections, he told everyone who would listen about how it was the warmest blanket he’s ever had. It sat folded on his bed for many years before he died in 2019.

Back then I was fortunate that grief was nothing but a rumbling thunderstorm in the distance. Now 20 years and several storms later, the clouds have rolled in like never before. 

In addition to the anxiety and depression of the past several years, I’m also mourning the loss — or at least the transition — of an important relationship in my life. There’s hope, and there’s also deep uncertainty. It’s been one of the most difficult personal years I’ve ever had (sorry 2020), and I’ve never felt so unraveled.

Self-care has fallen by the wayside, and I now need low-energy ways to feel human again. Instead of disappearing into a video game, as I’m prone to do, something has been calling me to reach for my purple Caboodle of crochet supplies and unravel a blanket that has fulfilled its purpose. I’m turning it into something I’ll actually use — a sweater for when it (hopefully) cools down in Los Angeles. 

The metaphorical beauty of refashioning something old and ugly into something meaningful is not lost on me. And to be doing it with crochet, a grandma hobby that’s been intertwined throughout my life, feels only right.

I learned to crochet when I was very young, and it was an early practice in patience and accepting my mistakes. When all hope was inevitably lost (thanks to being too tight or too loose or too careless with my stitches), all I ever had to do was pull a single string and start over.

In the turmoil of my teenage years, crocheting quieted my mind like nothing else could. The meditation of counting stitches and sewing together squares was soothing no matter where I was — whether I was trying to avoid watching the screen during scary movies or daydreaming on long road trips while Alanis Morissette played on my discman. 

Now I’m years out of practice, and my fingers fumble more than they used to. I have to start over each time I miscount my rows. The yarn keeps tangling in my purse, and I’m spending hours detangling the knots.

“I’m realizing how loss can be a bittersweet opportunity to start over — that with unraveling comes the chance to re-ravel.”

In all this, I’m realizing how loss can be a bittersweet opportunity to start over — that with unraveling comes the chance to re-ravel. That’s not to say it’s easy. I debated for weeks whether or not to deconstruct something my 15-year-old self had spent dozens of hours crafting. Much like I’ve spent the past several months trying to see clearly the self-isolation I mistook for protection. I’ve always wanted to keep things the way they were, the way I thought they’d always be. But things do change.

That’s not a bad thing. Undoing this blanket and turning it into something I love is a powerful reminder that nothing will ever change if nothing changes. I can’t sit around waiting for a blanket I made to become suddenly beautiful and functional in my life — I have to unravel, and I have to re-make. 

I’m here now, in the early stages of re-making the blanket. I can’t help but think about the chain of people who’ve made me who I am, and also of how much agency I have in stitching together a life I love. I yarn over for a half double crochet and hope I have enough yarn from this dye lot to make the entire project. But I remind myself, again, to stay open to starting over. I’ve done it before. 

As I make and re-make everything I’ve known to this point, I’m releasing the expectations of a certain outcome — I am creating something just for the sake of following my interests. I did not ask permission, I did not seek buy-in, and I will not pursue feedback. I’m just a girl, unapologetically crocheting and no one (but me) can tell me to stop. Just like I am a woman, unapologetically rebuilding my life and examining what is truly important. No one can tell me to stop taking up my own space.

Crocheting is bringing me back to myself, a place I’ve yearned to be for so long.

Forever a lover of metaphor, I like to think I am the yarn. Infinitely re-shapeable, sometimes tangled, forever persistent as long as I am patient with myself. What’s broken can be re-tied, and loose ends can be repurposed — or they can fall away. I am weaving and looping through my own story, and there are no rules to follow.

Stitch by stitch, I’m working up a new beginning for this old blanket, and a new beginning for myself. 

“I like to think I am the yarn. Infinitely re-shapeable, sometimes tangled, forever persistent as long as I am patient with myself. What’s broken can be re-tied, and loose ends can be repurposed — or they can fall away.”

Emily McGowan is the Editorial Director at The Good Trade. She studied Creative Writing and Business at Indiana University, and has over ten years of experience as a writer and editor in sustainability and lifestyle spaces. Since 2017, she’s been discovering and reviewing the top sustainable home, fashion, beauty, and wellness products so readers can make their most informed decisions. Her editorial work has been recognized by major publications like The New York Times and BBC Worklife. You can usually find her in her colorful Los Angeles apartment journaling, playing with her two cats, or crafting. Say hi on Instagram or follow along with her Substack, Pinky Promise.

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